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Note: This is more personal than I usually write, but PLEASE don’t take it personally. I know it can take a journey to be where you are in life now.

B came over yesterday so he could borrow a dress for Halloween (yea, he’s going to be a girl). We got to catching up and talking about things going on in our lives. Relationships, finding ourselves, friends, gossip, etc.

The first thing we talked about of course had to do with relationships. We started talking about how guys don’t realize that by NOT telling the truth, they’re hurting girls even more. Now don’t get me wrong. Sometimes a girl needs to stand up for her own and be the one to end things, but right now I’m just talking about dudes. For example, if a girl and guy were talking or dating and the guy just suddenly realizes he’s just not that into her, most guys tend to just stop calling or will disappear. The girl of course will wonder what’s going on and wonder what she did wrong. That’s just ONE example. So for you guys, JUST SUCK IT UP, BE A MAN AND TELL HER THE TRUTH. Even if she takes it hard, it’ll be easier for her in the long run instead of being dragged along and confused. And girls, if you need someone to be blunt about guys and situations, read “He’s Just Not That Into You”.

That of course led on to “people need to learn to just be honest with themselves”. Next example, if you haven’t read Rach’s blog titled “Single white female”, you need to read it before you finish reading this one unless you’ve actually seen the movie (which i still haven’t done). My thoughts to add on to what Rach said is that people that do things like that don’t know who they are or accept who they are. People that aren’t honest with themselves aren’t honest with others. You shouldn’t care what others think and should feel comfortable who you are. Find yourself. And just because someone is responsible doesn’t mean they’re emotionally mature. Realize what it is you’re doing and admit your emotions. I hate people that say they’re over their ex or they don’t care when they really aren’t. I see right through the people that say that. Another example is just breaking up with someone. If you’re not over it, admit that you’re not over it. This is something I don’t understand about guys. Most guys I know meet another girl before they start getting over their ex. I understand sometimes meeting someone new is all in fun, but for those that get into relationships right after, how do you start having feelings for another girl when you still have feelings for your ex? I know everyone has their own opinion about things and handles things differently, but i see no reason to lie to yourself. Just don’t front.

I’ve come a long way and been through enough shit to learn and have a different outlook on things. And in the last couple years I’ve learned more about myself than I have known in a long time. I may not know exactly what it is I want to do with my life career wise, but I know the things I’m interested in and what it is I want to dip my toes into (I’m into way too many different things). I still may not be the best at confrontation, but when it happens I’m not afraid to speak my mind. I don’t care what people think and I’m enjoying MY life.