A simple question that should have a simple answer. But there are times we find ourselves in grey areas. A place where you’re happy but could always be happier. My friend and I were discussing dating and relationships (yes, those subjects often come up for women in their late 20’s) when I realized how simple it was.
“Are you happy? Because honestly, I don’t think you are.”
Those might not have been her exact words to me, but it was something along those lines. While her statement was right about certain aspects of my life, she was talking about my relationship. Remember when I said it should be a simple question with a simple answer? Well…it may be a simple question, but if I’m answering it I will probably have a complex answer. Things are always different from the outside looking in than the inside looking out.
Anyways, earlier in the conversation we had talked about her current dating situation. She decided to stop seeing a guy she had been dating for the past couple of months. “I know he liked me, but I don’t think he cared about me.” Getting older I think we start distinguishing the difference. In my eyes, if a guy really cared for you he would show it. Actions speak louder than words. You can say “sorry” a over and over but the word becomes meaningless if actions don’t change. We continued to talk about it and how she wants someone who truly cares about her. Someone to care about how her day went. The little things. I agreed. It’s almost like when a girl tells a guy she was sad/mad because he didn’t do something. Then the guy tells her “You should have told me.” And the girl replies “I shouldn’t have to tell you. You should want to do it.” I know the girl sounds like a nag, but I don’t think guys really understand what a girl means when she says something like that. For me, I do thoughtful and nice things for my boyfriend because I want to. I would like to think that what I’m doing for him makes him happy. To me, that’s all that matters. It makes me happy, to make him happy. Plus it shows what am awesome girlfriend I am. Sometimes I wonder if making me happy makes him happy. Because it doesn’t always feel that way. And that’s how she was feeling towards the guy she was dating. It’s a two way street, you should give as much as you take and vice versa.
My friend told me a quote that Channing Tatum said on one of his Instagram pictures of him and his wife. It said “When I knew that making Jennal happy made me happiest of all, it wasn’t just about me anymore.”
Excuse me while I go watch Magic Mike now.
After class tonight I headed over to the bar across the street from my apartment. A couple of my “old” coworkers were there so I wanted to stop by and say “hi”. While I was catching up with one of them I asked how him and his girlfriend were. First off let me tell you that this guy can be a total ass sometimes and in his words, he’s an asshole. But with that said, he was telling me that him and his girlfriend were moving back in together. They lived together before and unfortunately broke up after feeling too “comfortable”. He opened up to me and confessed that he realized he was wrong and they eventually got back together. After telling me they were moving in again he couldn’t help but talk so highly of her. He proclaimed his love for her and expressed how great she was. A year ago when they first broke up, he wouldn’t have expressed those kind of feelings for her. To my surprise he was finally manning up. He was saying how strong they were and how he knew that even if they got pregnant by accident they would find a way to make it work. He was that confident in their relationship.
It got me thinking about guys manning up to their feelings and expressing how they feel for someone. I know a lot of guys that are scared of relationships, scared of commitments and just afraid to open up to someone in general. Don’t get me wrong, I know a lot of girls scared of those things too. But you mainly see it in guys. If you love someone, care about them and have feelings for them, why wouldn’t you want to express your feelings for them? The risk of getting hurt is always going to be there. So if you care for them that much isn’t it worth the risk? In my opinion my old coworker put his ego aside. He admitted he was scared but realized she was worth the risk.
I know it’s always easier said than done, but whether you’re a girl or a guy, man up and tell the person you love how you feel.
Had work and then a training downtown. Really sorry for the crappy pictures. I noticed that once I got towards the end of the project I was forgetting to ask someone to help me take a picture. My last day of Project OOTD is tomorrow! I’ll try to make it a good one!
Shirt: Banana Republic | Pants: H&M | Shoes: Cathy Jean
Stayed home all day to work on homework and traffic school. When it was finally time for class I didn’t feel like getting ready. Meaning my hair’s a mess (not like I really fix my hair anyways) and no make up.
Beanie: Burton | Jacket: Xhilaration (Target!) | Scarf: Secret Santa gift | Pants: BDG | Shoes: Vans
Photo: John Joel
Work first, Giants game after!
Sweater: Rubbish| Pants: Old Navy | Shoes: Cathy Jean
The SF Giants swept the Detroit Tigers and beat them in game 4 of the World Series! They played the last game on a jumbo screen in Civic Center and the city was on fire soon after the win.
Beanie: Fullylaced x Adapt | Hoodie: Adapt | Pants: BDG | Shoes: Sperry Top-Sider
Didn’t do much this past Friday except play volleyball and dress up for Halloween weekend. I’ll be honest, I was unsure about posting this. A friend and I decided to be Playboy bunnies. We felt like the outfit we got was somewhat more “classy” than others…but the first time I tried the costume on I knew I had to wear tights or fishnets under for sure. Cause dem shorts were shooooort. But anyways, if you took the bunny ears off we looked like we could be cocktail waitresses. The costume came with gloves but I ended up wearing them the night after.
Unfortunately I don’t have the packaging with me so I can’t tell you who makes this costume. If I find it I’ll let you know.
Shoes: BCBG | Fishnets: Umm…don’t know the brand but they were $5 from Target
Headed downtown to watch game two of The World Series. Gotta love our Giants! Unfortunately, after repeatedly telling Reg she had to help take my ootd photo, we totally forgot. So mirror picture it is!
Shirt: Adapt | Jacket: Majestic MLB- Giants | Pants: American Eagle | Shoes: Nike Jordan 12’s | Hat: New Era MLB – Giants