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A simple question that should have a simple answer. But there are times we find ourselves in grey areas. A place where you’re happy  but could always be happier. My friend and I were discussing dating and relationships (yes, those subjects often come up for women in their late 20’s) when I realized how simple it was.

“Are you happy? Because honestly, I don’t think you are.”

Those might not have been her exact words to me, but it was something along those lines. While her statement was right about certain aspects of my life, she was talking about my relationship. Remember when I said it should be a simple question with a simple answer? Well…it may be a simple question, but if I’m answering it I will probably have a complex answer. Things are always different from the outside looking in than the inside looking out.

Anyways, earlier in the conversation we had talked about her current dating situation. She decided to stop seeing a guy she had been dating for the past couple of months. “I know he liked me, but I don’t think he cared about me.” Getting older I think we start distinguishing the difference. In my eyes, if a guy really cared for you he would show it. Actions speak louder than words. You can say “sorry” a over and over but the word becomes meaningless if actions don’t change. We continued to talk about it and how she wants someone who truly cares about her. Someone to care about how her day went. The little things. I agreed. It’s almost like when a girl tells a guy she was sad/mad because he didn’t do something. Then the guy tells her “You should have told me.” And the girl replies “I shouldn’t have to tell you. You should want to do it.” I know the girl sounds like a nag, but I don’t think guys really understand what a girl means when she says something like that. For me, I do thoughtful and nice things for my boyfriend because I want to. I would like to think that what I’m doing for him makes him happy. To me, that’s all that matters. It makes me happy, to make him happy. Plus it shows what am awesome girlfriend I am. Sometimes I wonder if making me happy makes him happy. Because it doesn’t always feel that way. And that’s how she was feeling towards the guy she was dating. It’s a two way street, you should give as much as you take and vice versa.

My friend told me a quote that Channing Tatum said on one of his Instagram pictures of him and his wife. It said “When I knew that making Jennal happy made me happiest of all, it wasn’t just about me anymore.”

Excuse me while I go watch Magic Mike now.